When you're moving to a new area, it's natural to have high expectations. After all, you're moving to a place where everything is new and exciting! But what happens when those expectations aren't met?
If your expectations aren't met, it's important to remember that it's not the end of the world. There are ways to cope with disappointment and still enjoy your new surroundings. One way to do this is to focus on the positive aspects of your new area. If you expected to make friends right away and that's not happening, instead of focusing your attention on the lack of friends (or whatever it is you feel you are lacking), shift your focus onto something you gained from the move. Did you gain a backyard when you didn't have one at your old location? Are you now in a better area? Do you have walking trails next to your home? Where your focus goes, energy flows. So keep your focus on the good.
Another way to deal with unmet expectations is to find a support system in your new community. This could be a group of friends, family members, or even a professional counselor. If you have not found a local support system that fits what you are looking for, Homesick to Happy Movers Community is a great place to go for support.
Moving to a new area can be tough, but it doesn't have to be impossible. If you keep an open mind and are willing to adjust your expectations, you can find a way to make it work. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself that will help you when you are working through your expectations.
-What are my expectations?
-Are my expectations realistic?
-Is there a way to change my expectations?
-Who can I talk to about my expectations?
If you find yourself in a situation where your expectations are not being met, remember that it is okay to adjust them. There is no shame in admitting that something isn't working out the way you thought it would. The important thing is to be open to change and willing to work through the tough times. You can always make a pivot. Don't think that you are "stuck" here.
Cheering for you!